Constantly Criticizing Ourselves & Others

If you find yourself being very critical of yourself or others it's usually a very big sign pointing towards our own lack of self confidence. When we constantly criticize ourselves, we are in effect putting ourselves down over and over again. We react internally as if someone else was doing the criticisizing by becoming angry, defeated, anxious and depressed.

When nothing that other people do can please us, we are unconsciously pushing them away which reaffirms the belief that we are no good and unlovable. These kinds of negative thought processes damage our confidence subtly and perniciously over time and need dealing with immediately.

Negative thinking, which includes being critical and judgemental, can be overcome quickly once we are aware of it. Ask yourself this question: "What good comes from being critical of yourself or others?"

I'm not talking here about honest feedback, which is very useful when delivered correctly. I'm talking about constantly undermining yourself and others through constant criticism. In my opinion there is no benefit to this - all that happens is that you feel bad and you make others feel bad. When we feel bad it's hard, if not impossible, to perform at our best and our relationhsips suffer.

Try to catch your critical thoughts as they occur and ask yourself it it really is going to help anyone - yourself included. Challenge and question the thought - how accurate is it really? Are you really worthless, useless or a terrible person? Unless you have murdered someone today I doubt it very much! You are a unique and valuable person and I know that without even having met you!

Learn some more positive thinking techniques by watching my free video.

Have a great day!

Simone